Let me start off by admitting that, by now, this post is overdue to the point of possibly being irrelevant, and had almost fallen into the “posts I started but probably will never finish and publish” category. But it is still in my mind so I’ll just go ahead and get it off my list.
I have never really been a fan of John and Kate Plus 8. I would occasionally come across a rerun or something and leave it on for a few minutes, but I always found Kate’s demeanor to be a little too abrasive for my tastes, and would end up quickly flipping to something else. All of that to say that I don’t really have a lot invested in the show and the family, other than a general awareness of who they are and the basic premise. I have seen the magazine headlines over the last few months with all of the breakup rumors and haven’t really paid much attention.
A few Mondays ago I was on the internet and something flashed up about how they had filed paperwork that day for a divorce. I realized that the show was on right then and my curiosity got the best of me. I convinced an annoyed husband to flip over to it and we watched the last 15 or so minutes of the show.
What we saw was incredibly sad. You must have seen it now yourself by now, as I swear they are playing it on a loop. Anyway, both people discussed their impending separation and how they felt about it. John was rather flat: he seemed sad but mellow, maybe a bit optimistic about what the future held for him. Kate was more emotional, and discussed her sadness, bouts of crying, her anxieties about being a single parent and feelings of failure.
I found watching this unfold to be so awful and bizarre! I felt like I was listening in on a private and highly emotional conversation, like these people were talking about their crumbled marriage to a good friend and I just happened to be in the room. I wanted the interviewer to say, “Stop! You don’t have to talk about this. It’s none of our business.” I know that reality shows thrive when a controversy comes along, but this seemed to go a little too far. This is supposed to be a show about family life with 8 kids, on TLC for crying out loud! But what was on was more like the Bachelor Rose Ceremony type of drama.
In spite of my indignation I did not change the channel and we watched the show until the end. I was a little disappointed in myself actually, that I had felt so strongly about how inappropriate it was to broadcast this as entertainment, but still watched along with everyone else.
So, now is my time for confession. Though I didn’t care about John and Kate, there have been other celebrity breakups that I have cared about, for some odd reason. When they happened, I felt cheated that more details were not made available to the public. But now, when I was watching these celebrities bare everything for the camera, I was all too aware that these were real people and what had happened between them was none of my business.
Therefore, I am going to officially let go of my grudge against Nick and Jessica. Also, Brad, I will forgive you for leaving Jenn, even though she was Rachel Green for crying out loud. And I guess you don’t have to marry Angelina. But if you do, I will probably buy the magazine that you sell the pictures to.